Happy to report that all along it was the two cards i was testing with.
unfortunately neither liked being auto boot. I pulled the card and cable and CF holder out of my Amiga 600 and ran Peter Putnik's partitioner and installer,
(I purchased it because, none of the free ones were working...) now that i am setup, ... I dont think i'm going to bother with the free ones....)
I think i will order the following:
an external mount so I dont have to take my ste appart...
a longer 44 pin ide cable.
another kingston 4 gig card so I can put it in my Amiga 600 ( I may try the card holder and lexar card with the 600 incase it's less finicky... )
Thanks Allen, i will continue to use secondary ide swap for now.
and not it's time to have some fun.
I have another STe so I think you said in March you would have more ide adapters available? cound me in for one.
i always envied the way amiga 600 and 1200 had built in ide...
Cheers and thanks again...
P.S. the driver and install software i got from Peter is very good as well, and only 10 Euros...